Tuesday, June 19, 2007
10 SIMPLE WAYS TO BE ROMANTIC
I laughed when I saw the title of a new book on the market: "Bring Food and Show up Naked." Although that's pretty much all the romance a man needs, the book is actually about romance tips for marriage. And since we were on the subject of sex yesterday, I thought we might just continue that theme today. Having not read the above book yet, here are a few of my suggestions on how to be romantic in your marriage.
- Surprise your spouse by finding a babysitter for the kids and going out on a date.
- Leave a romantic note for your spouse to find.
- Give your spouse a "good" kiss for no reason at all.
- Call your spouse during the day just to say "I love you."
- Make a list of "25 Things" that you love about your spouse.
- Mail something to your spouse.
- Men ... send flowers to your wife at her work place.
- Compliment your spouse everyday.
- Plan an evening at home together by yourselves.
- Give your spouse a massage.
So, can you add some more?
Labels: Marriage, Sexuality, Top Ten List
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20 Comments:
wash dishes
watch kids so wife can go shopping
remember important dates
hugs
brian
Good list Brian ... but the "watch kids so wife can go shopping" might get expensive. :)
He probably meant GROCERY shopping!! :)
I think my husband really enjoys when I think of a recreational activity for us to do together. When I make the plans to get out & play tennis or whatever.
And, since you've been talking about sex ... when I'm the one that initiates, rather than waiting for him and just going along.
LISA! TMI!!! TMI!!!!!
just kidding
I think part of the problem with discussion sex is that lack of talk makes us very immature about it. Or maybe we are just naturally immature. Or maybe it is just me...
No one giggles or turns red or makes offensive comments about a Bible study on the atonement.
blogger boy
Of course he meant grocery shop, have you been to Childress! That is a great list, Trey, that I plan to copy and paste to you know who.
Sorry for giving too much info, everyone. I tend to be rather immature when talking about sex, but lately have tried to overcome that. Having other immature friends (ahem, Brian) really helps. (o;
Hi Monica!
Lisa - No apologies necessary. I thought you made a FANTASTIC point. Glad you were willing to make the point. But, Brian did make me laugh.
Here is a story for you, Trey.
Yesterday I had to go to court because I received a ticket for driving with expired tags. I wanted to plead innocent by virtue that I was ignorant of them being expired but knew that such a defense wouldn't help me out, therefore I pled guilty.
Anyways, I was given my fine and told to sit down and someone would be with me to either make arrangements to pay or receive payment. My name was called and I was led to through the back door, as all others had been, and taken back to the jail where the person opened one of the cells containing two inmates and informed me that I had to wait in there until my paperwork was processed. To say the least I was not too happy with this.
A few minutes later I was informed that any fine less than $200 had to be paid in full or I had to spend time in jail until payment could be arranged. When I questioned this I was informed that it was their policy and they couldn't change it. Fortunately money has it privileges and I happen to work for a company that is spending 1.5 billion dollars in this city to establish a new power plant that will employ close to 200 people.
Long story short, they let me out on my signature and promise to return before 5:00 to pay the fine in full or a warrant would be issued for my arrest.
I called my wife and told her of the events of my day and informed her that I was now free and couldn't wait to get home because it had been so long since I had been able to have her in my arms that she had better watch out. Although she thought this funny, she didn't find it overly enticing. LOL
Oh well, I wouldn't suggest going to jail to improve your intimacy, because no one wants to be close to a girlfriend named Bubba.
GREAT POST, TREY... I will definitely try some of these and let you know how they work...
Trey,
I'm going to try two of these later today but I need more clarification as I can’t determine how they actually increase romance between myself and my spouse. First of all, as to #1 where can I find a babysitter that will go out on a date with me on such short notice, and as to the message (see #10) I'm supposed to give my spouse, does it matter which one? I mean, I've got one on my desk that reads "Visit Ann Shapiro Tomorrow at Hospital Between 11:00-2:00." Will that sort of message do the trick? This must be some new mojo I’ve failed to grasp along the way, but I'm going to try both right away!
Urrr, to be serious for a moment, I sent my wife a long, steamy, and romantic (hopefully) e-mail yesterday afternoon. It took me twenty minutes or so to write, but I find it's really important to let Kim know how deeply I love her, and how blessed I am that God has graced me with her as a wife. She keeps e-mails like that, and sends me flirty little notes back. I feel like we’ve been married about 10 minutes!
BTW, Lisa's advice about initiating is really important. A lot of us guys have fragile egos and it helps when we're reminded (by being the pursed rather than the pursuer) by our wives that they think we're sexually attractive. No better way to show that than to INITIATE.
Ben
Chris ... what a day. I'd have been sweating. I'm sure the local paper would have had some kind of story about "local preacher and jail time." Thanks for taking the time to write the story. I loved it.
Ben ... thanks for the laugh. I had to go back and read #1 to understand what you were saying. I saw what you meant. As for number 10, I'll have to talk to my proof-reader about that. Message - Massage, desert - dessert ... all words that throw me for a loop. Thanks for the good thoughts.
maybe you could send your wife a message about the massage
brian
...a massage with dessert...
perfect, send your wife a message about an evening filled with massages and desserts!!!
brian
Lisa,
I needed that advice!
Thank you!
Enjoyed Trey!
Monalea
Two Questions?
[1] "Is romance a biblical concept? I don't mean scriptural as in godly or ungodly. {See #2}"
[2] "If romance is an historical concept, how far back in human history does it go?"
Mr. Neva is very romantic. When I go out of town he sprays his cologne on my jammies so they smell like him when I open up my suitcase. Two weeks before Valentines Day, he buys a box of kid valentines and fills them out and hides them everywhere.
When our rosebush is in bloom, he cuts a rose and dethorns it and sits it on my Bible or the computer every morning. He makes coffee in the morning and brings me a cup. He still calls me his bride.
very romantic and it makes me forget that he leaves his socks in the middle of the living room. :)
Peace
Neva
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AW ... good questions, I wouldn't have a clue about the history of it. I do know that there's some concept of it in the bible, so I know it's at least that old.
Neva... Mr. Neva is my hero.
I love this program! Sign me up! I want to receive messages about massages and dessert. I'll even have them in the desert.
Hey James, call me ;) ;)
Do you remember the very secular song, "Do you like pina coladas?" If I remember right, it was the spouse that answered the ad which it was intended for. I think that would be really fun. Maybe not so much in a local small town paper because you may have the news boy show up at the Deuce with you. Just a thought...
Kathy
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