Recently I was asked by a friend who had moved to a new community and was looking for a new church home, "How can I tell if a church is right for us?" and "What are some things we should look for and some things we should avoid in a church?" Those are very good questions, and I thought it would make a great post for discussion. So let's start with some churches you might want to avoid.
CHURCHES TO AVOID ...
- A CONTROLLING CHURCH: I'd avoid any church that feels they have "authority" over all areas of your life. If you have to ask the leadership's permission to change jobs or permission to move ... that's probably a church you should avoid.
- A PERFECT CHURCH: Avoid any place where everyone pretends to be sinless and without problem. Look out for anyplace that you feel you must dress up and smile every Sunday for an hour of deception, pretending like everything and everyone in the church is perfect. Simply put, avoid a place where no one ever discusses their faults, struggles or problems.
- A WE'VE "GOT IT ALL RIGHT" CHURCH: I wouldn't want to be part of any place that felt they were a perfect church. Any place that believes that they have all the answers correct and think they are the only ones that have it "all figured out" ... that's not the place for me. The "perfect church" feels like they're right and everyone else in the world is wrong.
- A CHURCH THAT'S NOT BIBLICALLY BASED: Avoid the church that is more concerned with how they look socially and in the community than how they compare to the word of God. A church that considers the bible to be "out-of-date" and old fashion may not be a church at all. Find a church that seeks the truth from God's word, follows it faithfully and shares it with others.
Those are a few churches that I would have on my "avoid" list. Tomorrow - Finding the Right Church part 2: "Churches to Consider."
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The Rules:
Players start with 8 random facts about themselves. Those who are tagged should post these rules and their 8 random facts. Players should tag 8 other people and notify them they have been tagged.
EIGHT RANDOM (and possibly weird) FACTS ABOUT TREY:
- I hate getting out of the shower all clean and my teeth still feel dirty, so I brush my teeth in the shower everyday.
- I love a good cup of coffee. It is my favorite drink.
- I like my breakfast cereal a little soggy, so I'm likely to pour the milk and go do something for a couple of minutes.
- I like my ice cream soft. A few seconds in the microwave will make it perfect.
- I love doing yard work, it's my therapy.
- I love watching my children from a distance. My chest swells up with pride and I think, "That's MY boy!" It gives me an idea what God sees when He watches us.
- I don't like to preach with notes. I just want a few thoughts on a single piece of paper.
- I think bluetooth earpieces look goofy. I don't want one.
So, I've completed tag number one. I'll get to tag number two next week. Oh, and here are the eight people I tag with this. I'm going to pick on some new people that we might not know as well around here.
Brandon Price - Put your camera down and fill out the tag :)
Matthew Morine - He's kind of a new guy around here so it would be great if he'd participate.
Eben Emerson - Being the camp ping-pong champ doesn't exempt you from this little game.
Chris Clous - He's been MIA lately.
Dee Andrews - You can't be to tired from your trip to participate in this can you?
Frank Bellizzi - You've been on summer break from teaching college classes, so you've got time :)
Jeff Foster - This guy will make it interesting.
Scott Wakefield - Can Scott come out and play?
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I'm honored to put it on my blog, Connor. Your mom and I are very proud of you and we love you very much.
PS - The crazy guy you see briefly in the video is Nate, our fantastic (yet goof-ball) youth minister. He was shooting the video for us.
For the QMCC campers that promised to drop by: Click here for some camp pictures.
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- I've learned some great new praise songs.
- I've learned that fun and faith CAN go in the same sentence.
- My friend Jesus has been there.
- The real Jesus has been there too.
- I've loved watching my kids play and realize God loves watching His kids play too.
- Five young people have become Christians this week.
- I've heard some great lessons on David - "A Man after God's own Heart."
- Worship has been inspiring.
- I've renewed old friendships and made new ones.
- I've realized from watching these young people ... the church has a BRIGHT future!!!
Blessings ~ Trey
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Summers are usually busy, but this one has been busier than usual. I guess it happens. Hope everyone has a great week.
A couple of links for you this week.
- John Roberts wrote an excellent post on marriage called "Together, Forever." You can find it here, posted under the date of Wednesday, July 18th.
- Here's Sunday's sermon. "How to Know God's Will for Your Life." I hope if you get time you'll drop by and give it a listen (or a sleep).
Blessings to you this week ~ Trey
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Did you know that the Bible is the best-selling book of all time and it continues to be the best-selling book of the year, every year. The CBA has released this month's "Best Selling Translations" list. Does any of these surprise you?
- New International Version
- King James Version
- New Living Translation
- New King James Version
- English Standard Version
- The Message
- Holman Christian Standard Bible
- New American Standard Bible
- Today's New International Version
- New Century Version
For years I've preferred the NIV. Seems like most of the people I preach to use the NIV as well. Lately I've been doing my daily reading from the NCV and the NLT. I've enjoyed both of these as well.
So what translation do you use? Is there a translation you don't like? Do you know anyone who thinks the Bible translations they use is actually the only one God authorizes us to use?
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We pulled up on a dirt street among some homes and the people came running.
Trying on clothes outside their home.
A new hat and a new shirt for one little boy and a smile from his sister.
Giving out clothes from the back of a pickup.
One of their homes.
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I can't wait to tell you more about it in a couple of days. But tonight, I'm exhausted. I'm going to bed.
We leave early in the morning for what should be a 32 hour bus ride home. Thanks for thinking of us and thanks for sharing our Mexico trip with us.
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- Saturday we had an "off" day. We spent time at the park playing football with some of the Mexican people and then they taught us how to play soccer. It was lots of fun spending the day playing in the park. We told Nate (our wonderful youth minister) that he could play only if he toned-down his competitiveness. Nate is the most competitive guy in the whole world, and we enjoy spending time teasing him about it. He was able to keep himself under control (for the most part). :)
- Saturday night a handful of us went to Lucha Libre (yes, a Mexican professional wrestling match). How could I ever live with myself knowing I had a chance to watch a cultural event such as Lucha Libre and didn't go? So I decided not to deprive myself of this pleasure and I watched the great "Mistico" defend his title. It was too fun.
- Sunday: Worship with the church in Mexico City was amazing. The singing was tremendous and the communion time was very moving. I wish everyone could experience worship in another country. It's a "out-of-your-comfort-zone" experience.
- The other morning I was the first to get up so I made coffee. I drank half the pot before someone else finally got up. When they did they asked me how I made the coffee and I replied, "like I always do." I realized I'd made coffee with the water we aren't supposed to drink. I made it with water from the faucet instead of bottled water. To this point ... I still haven't gotten sick. Yea, dumb move on my part.
- Update on kids ... A hand full have sick, but only off and on. Nothing serious. Good thing we have a couple of fantastic doctors with us on the trip. Tomorrow we take a trip outside the city to a little community. There we will be working, serving and giving clothes away that we brought with us. It will be a long, hard and fruitful day.
- Thanks for your prayers and your notes. The kids have sure enjoyed the comments from home. A few pictures are below.
Most of the group that went to the park.
The communion table during Sunday morning services.
Two more of the homeless people we fed. They asked that we take their picture.
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I know I've got a lot of moms and dads from home reading each day to see how their kids are doing. The kids are doing awesome. They are working hard, serving others and keeping a great attitude. The singing at tonight's devotional was awesome, but you could see "tiredness" in the kid's eyes. Tomorrow will be an easier day and we're giving them an extra hour of sleep. I think it'll help with the tiredness.
We had one of the adults who had his pocket picked on the metro (subway) today. We lost about $250 dollars. It was their "group food money" for the day. It was very replaceable. We were thankful that no one was hurt.
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32 hours from Childress, Texas to Mexico City on a bus (and then another 32 hours to get home again). - Walking close to 6 miles a day.
- Handing out invitation to study the Bible.
- Picking up trash.
- Seeing a few sights.
- Working in communities.
- Feeding the homeless.
- Serving others.
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Here are a few interesting links you might enjoy ...
- Last week's sermon: "Know How To Stop." I started the sermon with watching Cooper's bicycle crash. That was fun.
- Tammy Ross wrote a GREAT piece in the Christian Chronicle on "ministers and their families." Check it out here.
- Church members come and church members go. Why do they leave? What's our response? What's a church to do? A must reads for every minister/ elder/ church leader. Read them here and here.
- I miss my fellow blogger Don. Please "blog" again.
- Finally, here is a MUST for all parents. If it were only this easy, huh? I'm not sure the Morgan's need the “stop/screaming” button, but the “attitude/off” button could come in handy. Ooh, and the “tidy room” button ... I really like that one!
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Thankfully I was raised around a dad that was always willing to tell me, "I love you son." Even after he'd just disciplined me for something I'd done wrong, he'd always let me know, "I love you son." That was his way of saying, "I'll never stop loving you. No matter what you do." This past weekend I got to spend some time with my dad and at least twice he told me how much he loved me. I am SO thankful for a dad who was man enough to tell me he loved me.
Dads, you cannot tell your children “I love you” enough. Trust me, one of the biggest fears that they have is messing up so bad that their parents eventually stop loving them! We need to ALWAYS communicate to our kids that there is NOTHING they can do to make us stop loving them!
I am sick and tired of the men who refuse to tell their kids they love them because “their daddy didn’t do this for them.” BE A MAN ... tell your kids you love them ... A LOT!!!
I see Mrs. C working nearly every time I go out to the prison to teach a class to the prisoners. I'm guessing she's in her late 50's or early 60's. I don't know much about her other than she works the gate at the prison. And every time I've seen her, it's always the same. No words, no facial expression and no smile, only hand gestures. If she ever makes eye contact, and that very rarely happens, you can feel her icy stare burning right through you. I believe she could scare anyone from the smallest child or the meanest convict with simple eye contact.Labels: Christian Living, General
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I've made a big change to my "sermon" page. I'm now posting my sermons at http://trey.mypodcast.com/. The main reason for the change is it's FREE! I like free. It's also much easier to listen to a sermon on the new page. And for those that like to use podcasting. I was able to "podcast" one of my sermons with my new I-Pod. That was pretty cool. Anyway, check out the new page if you'd like.
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I'm excited that my friend Eben Emerson, who preaches in Tulia, Texas, has begun blogging. I'm sure Eben will be challenging us on a regular basis. When you get time, stop by and welcome Eben to the blogging world.
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I'm leaving for Mexico City this Wednesday for a mission trip. I'm thrilled that my whole family is going with me. I plan on using my blog for mission trip updates. I'll be writing about the sights, activities and efforts of the trip. I'll try and include some pictures.
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3. Use the silent treatment when you are mad.
4. Always put yourself first.
5. Be critical.
6. Tell your spouse they need to change, but you make no effort to change.
7. Ignore your spouses needs.
8. Make no effort to improve yourself or your marriage.
9. Never compliment your spouse.
10. Speak negatively about your spouse around other people.
11. Make no effort to keep yourself "looking good" for your spouse.
12. Use derogatory names like stupid, dumb, ignorant and idiot.
13. Always blame your spouse for the problems. It's never your fault.
14. Take your mate for granted.
15. Quit trying to impress your spouse (you're married, it's not needed anymore).
16. Withhold sex to punish your spouse.
17. Never take any time to get away without the kids.
18. When arguing ... bring up old stuff from the past.
19. Have a short fuse.
20. When angry be verbally abusive.
21. Never seek outside help when you come to an impasse.
22. Don't tell your spouse how much you love or appreciate them. Just expect them to know it.
23. Have a "it's my way or the highway" attitude.
24. Spend more time with your friends than your spouse.
25. Never say "I love you."
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I've been reading Jim Martin's blog about "Journaling As a Spiritual Discipline" (Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, and Part 4). I like his thoughts on journaling and on spiritual disciplines.We don't do a lot of talking on "spiritual disciplines." And one spiritual discipline that doesn't get much attention is fasting.
The purpose of a dedicated period of prayer and fasting is to humble ourselves before God, seek His will, and ask Him to empower us to do His will. Jesus expected his disciples to fast. In Matthew 6:16 Jesus said, "when you fast" indicating an expectation that his followers would fast. So, as requested by a reader, here are a few of my thought on fasting.
BIBLICAL REASONS FOR FASTING
- To bring the body under control (1 Corinthians 9:27).
- To receive understanding and insight (Daniel 9; 10:2-3; Luke 2:37).
- To sorrow over sin. (Daniel 9; Acts 9:9; 1 Samuel 7:6).
- To begin a new work for God (Matthew 4:2ff; Exodus 34:27-28; Acts 12:2-3).
- To empower us (Esther 4:15-16; Matthew 9:15-17).
- To seek the will of God (Acts 13:2).
- To humble ourselves before God (Deuteronomy 8:2-3).
- To be heard by God (Esra 8:53; Jonah 3).
- To change God's mind (Jonah 3:5,10; 1 Kings 21:27-29).
HOW TO FAST (Warnings: Do not fast if you are....)
- Diabetic
- Hypoglycemic
- Taking certain medications with food.
- Receiving treatment for an eating disorder.
- Fasting for the praise of men (Matthew 6:16-18).
EXAMPLES OF HOW LONG TO FAST
- One day (Leviticus23:27, 1 Samuel 14:24; Nehemiah 9:1).
- Three days (1 Samuel 30:12, Acts 9:9).
- Seven days (1 Samuel 31:11-13).
- Fourteen days (Daniel 10:2-3).
- Three weeks (Daniel 10:2-3).
- Forty days (Exodus 34:28; Matthew 4:1-2).
FASTING ALTERNATIVES
- Fast from television or other entertainment (Daniel 6:18).
- Fast from certain food groups, including bread, sweets, fast foods, cokes or meat (Daniel 1).
- Abstain from sex with your spouse, by agreement only (1 Corinthians 7).
PRACTICAL FASTING TIPS
- Usual meal time should be replaced by Bible study and prayer.
- If you have never fasted before, begin with a short fast.
- Fasts longer than one day should include water and/or unsweetened fruit juices.
- Avoid vigorous exercise during your fast.
- Longer fasts are best accomplished with an accountability partner.
- Expects some light-headedness, bad breath, and irritability, particularly with longer fasts.
- When fasting longer than three days, seek medical advice.
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You've heard of the 23rd Psalm from the KJV or NIV. This is the 23rd Psalm from the "sweet" or "precious" version.
Then he said to them, "I can guarantee this truth: Unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven."
~Jesus
A long time ago someone handed me an index card that said "Don't just pray, pray dangerously." I've always been curious about how to pray dangerously, because so many of my prayers are "me" centered. I sometimes present my prayers to God like they are a Christmas list, "Lord, here are the things I want." Let me challenge you to pray some dangerous prayers this week. Ask God for some things that will spice up your spiritual life. Pray any of these 5 dangerous prayers and see what happens.
- SEARCH ME (Psalm 139:1, 23) - How many times do we look at others sins, others problems and other screw ups and not see our own. David asks God to search him and show him any thing that's offensive in his life. And the more I learn about myself the more I realize there are so many areas of my life still not fully surrendered to God. Ask God to "search you" this week.
- BREAK ME (Psalm 139:24) - "Lord, if you find any offensive way in me ... break me." One of the ways we grow spiritually is through our brokenness. My life is full of worldly things that I have allowed to become "acceptable" because others do it, but God sees as sin. Break me in these areas, Lord.
- STRETCH ME (or Test Me) (Psalm 139:23) - The strongest Christians I know are those that have been stretched and tested. Just like companies test there products to see their weaknesses, so also our testing can do the same. In the book of Acts we find the apostles and the church being stretched and tested, it made them stronger. Show us our weaknesses Lord, so we can become stronger in them.
- LEAD ME (Psalms 139:24) - Asking God to take your life and lead you is a HUGE risk. Because His plans for us may be different (and better) than our own plans for us. Just ask Abraham what it means to have God lead you (Genesis 12). God told Abraham He wanted him to move, and when Abraham asked, "where," God said, "You pack and let me lead you and I'll let you know when we get there." Wow, risky, but what an amazing adventure.
- USE ME - It's exciting to make yourself available to God so that He can touch someone else through you. "Use me" is a dangerous prayer that creates adventure. Oh, how I want to be used by God, but to be used, I wonder if I first must allow Him to search me, break me, test me, stretch me, and lead me.
Want to spice up your spiritual life? Pray a dangerous prayer this week.
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To my friend Don, "AW - Please say it isn't so."
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I'm proud of my Childress family. I'm proud of how hard they work to show others who they are and who God is (John 13:34-35). Thank you Childress church for the sweat, effort and labor you gave tonight. And, we give God all the glory.

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